A few months ago I felt like maybe it was time I gave up
Facebook. I would find myself spending 30 minutes here, an hour there, another
15 later in the day, any time I had to wait (grocery store, traffic, doctor’s
appointment), on social media. I bought into the idea that by checking Facebook
so often throughout the day, I was connecting with people. Not surprisingly, by
the end of the day, I was still feeling lonely. It finally hit me that this
connection I thought I was making with my “friends” was really just me reading
their status updates and looking at their pictures. It would feel like I was caught up on their life, but let’s face it, how often do we put
the not so glamorous, real pieces of our lives on Facebook? Now granted, some
of us do occasionally, but for the most part, we post pictures of our clean
houses, our happy kids, and amazing trips that we’re on. If I documented my typical
day, most of my posts would be about frustrations at work and pictures of my
computer screen, or at the end of the day, me in my pjs on my couch watching
Netflix. Who wants to follow that story?
Secondly, I found myself getting caught up in people’s lives
and feeling envious of their grand adventures, their clean homes, their amazing
families and completely awful about my life. I bought into the social media lie
that everyone else’s life is so much better than mine. The truth is, my life
might not be all I want it to be right now, but it doesn’t make it any less valuable
than the lives I see portrayed on Facebook.
So, as part of a new year, I decided to give up Facebook for
the month of January. I can already tell you that I’ve failed. I went about 10
days before I fell off the wagon, but even in those 10 days, I saw a shift in
myself. When I got back on, I realized I really didn’t miss that much. Truth is, the
people in my life that I consider close friends are going to contact me
personally when something big happens. I also had less of a desire to stay on
it for too long. It didn’t have it's usual appeal. I’m still trying to stay away
from it for a couple more weeks and instead use that time to call, text, or
e-mail the important people in my life. I guarantee at the end of the day I
might still feel a little bit lonely because most of the people I care about
live miles away, but I bet I feel more connected.
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